How to talk to your parents about accepting help at home

Bringing up the topic of home care with a parent or older loved one can feel daunting. It’s natural to worry about upsetting them, especially if they’ve always been fiercely independent. But when you start to notice changes—missed meals, struggles with daily tasks, or increasing loneliness—it might be time to gently open that conversation.

At Lots of Care, we understand how emotional this step can be. That’s why we believe in flexible, friendly, and completely personalised support—designed to fit into your loved one’s life, not take over it.

Signs your parent may need help at home

It’s not always about dramatic changes. Sometimes, it’s the subtle shifts that signal it’s time for a little extra help at home. You might notice:

• Forgetting to take medication or missing appointments

• The house isn’t as tidy or clean as it used to be

• They seem less steady on their feet or have had a minor fall

• Meals are skipped or food is going out of date

• Decline in personal hygiene or appearance

• Increased forgetfulness, confusion, or isolation

• They’re just not quite themselves—quieter, withdrawn, or low

Often, the biggest concern families share is companionship. Even an hour or two of conversation and company a week can make a world of difference to someone who’s feeling lonely.

How to start the conversation

The most important thing is to be gentle, respectful, and patient. Here are a few ways to approach it:

• Pick the right moment – Avoid rushing or discussing it during a stressful time. Choose a calm moment when you can talk without distractions.

• Use "I" statements – “I’ve noticed you seem a bit tired lately…” is less confrontational than “You can’t cope.”

• Reassure them it’s not about losing independence – In fact, getting a bit of help can actually preserve their independence longer.

• Talk about your peace of mind too – Let them know how much it would reassure you to know they’re supported.

• Mention how flexible it is – With Lots of Care, there’s no commitment. They can try care once a month, or even just for a few hours now and then, and increase it only if and when they feel ready.

What about the cost?

We understand that cost is a major concern for many families. That’s why we’re completely transparent about our pricing and will always help you explore funding options if needed. In some cases, your parent may be eligible for support from your local authority or through NHS Continuing Healthcare.

We’ll work with you to create a care plan that fits both your needs and your budget—whether it’s a short weekly visit or full-time live-in support.

Yes, we can even help look after pets!

We know that pets are family too. Whether it’s feeding the cat, walking the dog, or making sure your parent’s companion is also cared for, our carers are happy to help. Keeping routines consistent and pets happy is just one more way we help make home life easier.

Why care at home is best

For many older people, home is more than just a place to live—it’s a space filled with comfort, memories, and independence. Unlike a care home, home care allows your loved one to stay in the place they know and love, while still getting the support they need.

And with Lots of Care, that support is always:

• Compassionate and respectful

• Flexible and personalised

• Delivered by friendly carers who take time to build trust

Start small, see the difference

We don’t believe in one-size-fits-all care. Whether your parent needs help once a month, a companion for afternoon tea, or someone to assist with daily routines, we’re here when you’re ready.

A little help now can make a huge difference later.

Talk to us today

If you’re thinking about starting the conversation with your loved one and want some guidance, we’re here for you.

Serving families across Bury St Edmunds, West Suffolk and South Norfolk

Call us on: 01284 334481